Tend Your Own Rocks
In a world that can slowly suck you down the proverbial rabbit hole quickly, it is nice to stop and concentrate on the things that keep you heading in the right direction.
The things that make you happy. The things that make you want to do more and be more during your lifetime here on Earth.
For some, they need to sit and really think about things that make them happy. For me they are easy to pinpoint.
Walking and Exercise :
I’m not a gym rat and never will be. Tried and so far, hasn’t worked out too well.
It doesn’t have to be a full on gym session to be good for you. Even a casual stroll will reduce stress and make you feel refreshed.
As a nature and wildlife photographer, spring renews my soul. Walks in the woods, surrounded with a light frost and the hopes of seeing a white-tailed deer or welcoming back a migratory bird, help to relax me.
In the fall, the crisp air and the bright and striking colored leaves, remind me of the circle of life and how short it truly is. Getting out and enjoying nature and reflecting is good way to reduce and eliminate my stress.
Talking With Your Spouse and Children:
Both of my children are teenagers. They don’t need to have Mom up to get them out the door in the morning. I do get up. I make a point of having morning, one-on-one sessions with them each morning. What they are doing is important to me.
It gives them a chance to ask me questions, share their thoughts and be part of their lives. We have close bonds, and that bond is because they know I care and they can share the details of their lives with me. I specifically give them time to do so.
The ten minutes I lay in bed after the kids are out the door in the morning spent talking to my husband while he is getting ready for work is precious time.
It is a small amount of time, but it is alone time. Uninterrupted time to talk. Time we might not have later in the day because of the daily pressures of life.
We spend this time sharing things from the previous day, talking about issues that need to be resolved or just setting goals for the upcoming weeks, months and years.
Catching Up With A Friend or Relative:
That cup of coffee shared with a friend on a Monday morning to catch up on life, it is a small, but well needed thing I do for myself. Sharing the joys and triumphs from the previous week, while giggling like school girls. Laughter can and does, take away a day’s worth of stresses.
If your time is limited, even a quick phone call to a friend or relative, can restore a smile to your face.
Once a month, I have two friends that I meet for gab-sessions. We meet at a local restaurant for a meal and good conversation. After returning home, I have a permanent smile on my face. Surrounding yourself with positive people makes waking up the next morning a joy.
My friend and relative time is only sprinkled in – it works for me.
Tend your own rocks So More Sand and Pebbles Fit Between Them
A philosophy professor stood before his class with some items on the table in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, about 2 inches in diameter.
He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks.
He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up the remaining open areas of the jar.
He then asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “Yes.”
“Now,” said the professor, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things – your family, your partner, your health, your children – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter – like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else, the small stuff.”
“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life.
If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party, or fix the disposal.”
“Tend your own rocks– the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”
That my friends, is the best explanation you need in life right there. Your extended family and friends, job, house, car and such can wait. The people in my four walls of my home and my spiritual need for nature come first, period!
If you tend your own rocks first, EVERYTHING else will fit in. If your entire jar was empty and only your rocks remained, your life will be full…. SO, TEND YOUR ROCKS.